Self Care on the Homestead

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jan-phoenix-275552Ladies — homesteading takes a lot of work. Way more than others will acknowledge that know nothing about homesteading. And living on a frugal homestead can just add to the workload.

We’re talking shovels instead of tractors, refilling water instead of electric heated bowls, adding yet another layer of bedding, repaired fences and trellises made from scrap wood instead of paying for an install or brand new.

It takes a lot of work and a lot of time to make your homestead’s merry go round. And sometimes, we get lost in all that hard work. And let me tell you, there is always work to do. Especially, when spring season hits. It’s all about kids, planting, and gardening, and animals, new buildings, and home remodels, more laundry because we are sweating through 3 shirts a day, and more kids.

We get overwhelmed to say the least. And during this time, we forget about ourselves. We forget we need clean clothing and naps. Lots of naps. And we might need a glass of wine or maybe the day calls for an entire bottle. We aren’t judging! Hell, I’ve been there many a time when my day might even call for tequila.

Tequila! Tequila!

But during the busiest time of year, we also have to remember we need to be taken care of. Homesteading can definitely wear you down when you’re going 200 miles an hour, being pulled in every direction possible, and the last thing on your mind before your face hits the pillow is — I need a shower. This is the precise moment that you think to yourself, it can wait until tomorrow. Though tomorrow really means next week.

So ladies — and gents — we need to take care of our ever amazing bodies. They should never be taken for granted. Without them, this homesteading thing would become a lot harder and a lot more expensive. And I don’t know about you, but I don’t have Benjamins floating around in my underwear drawer just waiting to be spent.

Here are the top 6 things I do for self care in the spring. Well, any time of year for that matter, but especially in the spring when things get hella hectic.

artem-beliaikin-478436 (1)Hot Shower/Bath/Sauna/Hot Tub

As many of you homesteaders know, hot showers don’t come as frequently as our city dwelling counterparts enjoy. Hot water is scarce, the time is never there, and wait — I’m stuck again using The Beard’s t-shirt because there isn’t a clean or dry towel in sight.

But after a couple of days playing in chicken shit, repairing fences, repotting plants, and weeding your garden — a hot shower will never feel more amazing! I don’t care if you need to boil 50 kettles of water on your wood burning stove, buy a gym membership just so you can take an hour long hot shower, or take a weekly trip to your in-laws to have a life refreshing HOT HOT shower/bath. I’m talking your-butt-cheeks-better-be-red hot.

You didn’t realize your leg hairs could grow longer than your husband’s. Your hair has clumps of too many sticky fingers that have run through it. And you didn’t know your feet could be that disgustingly black.

But rest assured, you will be a whole new woman, strutting your stuff around like your hens do in the back yard. Just take it from me. Get yourself some bath bombs, some epsom salt, bubbles, and candles and soak those buns up. You deserve it!

Send the kids wherever they need to go. You need this!

matthew-sleeper-124918Have your morning coffee

I’m super guilty of this. After I let the dogs out, feed the chicks and rabbits — it’s time for me to have my morning cup of joe X 5. I like really slow mornings. And I have to be thankful that I can spend this time slowly waking up.

Yes, it takes me at least 2 hours before I fully wake up. If I have to be out of the house early, it ain’t pretty for anyone. I’m a crab ass. The Beard and I usually end up bickering about stupid shit because again, I haven’t had my two hours to wake up.

The Beard, on the other hand, can get ready for the day in a half hour. He knows I need my morning time πŸ™‚

Read a book, blog, do yoga, whatever it is you want with those two hours. But do nothing that consists of work. Our bodies need rest and so does our sanity.

Even if you can’t afford to wake up slow every morning, on the mornings you can — you better cherish that shit.

** P.S. little side note — if you want slower mornings and you think you can’t have them because your goats and cattle are calling for you to feed them, make sure you aren’t feeding them before 9am. They will get used to it and stop dragging you out of bed before the sun comes up.

vanessa-serpas-435537Go out

Homesteading isn’t, per se, very sexy. It’s a lot of dirty work. It’s labor intensive. It’s rewarding. And we love almost every second of it.

This isn’t my most frugal tip to self care, but it is definitely a necessity on the homestead. Most of us don’t get out very much. Kids. Animals. Gardening. Building. It’s all exhausting work and by the end of the day, we’re so over it. The thought of getting all dressed up (Do I even own clothing that doesn’t have a hole or a stain on it?) putting on your high thigh boots and strutting your stuff all over town seems like a lot of work. Those boots were made for strutting. It’s okay to feel like a bad bitch sometimes πŸ˜‰

But trust me when I say you need it. Your marriage needs it. And you’ll thank me for this not so frugal piece of advice.

It does a woman’s soul good to feel sexy. So go find that super short dress and your make up bag hidden in the closet (or go thrifting for that just right black dress) and show your husband what you’re made of.

And then, make sure you allocate some time the next day for your ever certain hang over.

jaime-spaniol-109084Enjoy a wood burning fire

Unless it’s the middle of summer (in that case – have a bonfire), it can still get pretty cold. Even in spring. That rain isn’t 100 degrees and the gloomy weather isn’t helping. So grab a coffee, a drink, and some cheese and crackers.

Enjoy a book, a snuggle, or some music in front of that crackling fireplace. Day. Night. It doesn’t matter. Put your feel on the couch and warm those toes up.

If it’s winter, even better. And if you have an actual open wood burning fireplace — you’re set. S’mores are a necessity.

afa-ah-loo-419917Sunbathe

Don’t worry. That’s not me in the picture. I’m not that cool.

Clearly, this is only for days when temps are 80+ if you’re wanting to sport a bikini. But don’t let cooler, bright and sunny days deter you. Put some clothes on and lay on that hammock, sipping lemonade and eating fresh baked chocolate chip cookies. And if you have kids, con them into making them for you (with appropriate supervision, obvi.) Popsicles will also do when you’re sweating balls and need a break from building, feeding, watering, weeding, mowing, shoveling, digging, cleaning, and cooking. If you would like to feel even more like a queen, have your husband feed you grapes πŸ˜‰ HAHA I’m sure I’m getting the eye roll right now.

kinga-cichewicz-448946Redecorate a room

I don’t know about you, but I love decor and design. It gets me in trouble sometimes with The Beard. But I crave change (and thrifting) and sometimes (okay a lot of times) things need deep cleaning. All the more excuse to redecorate or reorganize a room.

Every time I redecorate or add to one of our rooms, I get this girly squeal thing going on. Having a clean home, but also a beautiful home makes life a lot easier when you aren’t always walking into chaos and shit everywhere. Looking around your home and only seeing more work makes life a lot more stressful.

I can’t tell you how good it feels to wake up to a clean kitchen in the morning.

Our house is still in pre-demo mode, so we’re doing what we can, but designing a room can really lift your spirits and give back some of the love you felt the first time you walked into your home. Even just switching decor from different rooms can give a space a whole new life, sure to be enjoyed by your 2 hour cups of coffee.


There you have it. My top 6 ways to self care and feeling like a queen on the homestead. Honestly, it doesn’t require money. Mostly, just time. But if you can fit in a nice meal out or a couple of drinks — certainly do it for your sanity.

I cannot stress how important it is to take care of your body, especially when busy season on the home front comes around.

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